DISCLAIMER: Do not believe anything that I say!  Test everything that you read below against all verses in the Hebrew Bible (Tanakh) and the Brit Chadashah (NT).  Pray for the truth and to be led by the Holy Spirit (Ruach HaChodesh)!  I am not your pastor, preacher, teacher, rabbi, or anything else.  I am just a guy who has an opinion.




In my study of Biblical marriages back in the time of Yeshua, I found many parallels with the Bible.  I found it interesting that, even though we do not see what a Judean marriage looks like in Scripture, once we know what it does look like, it becomes a wonderful picture for YHVH’s plan.


What I found in my studies is that there are actually two variations of the Judean marriage.  The first is a Judean marriage and the second is almost identical, but with one variation.  It is the Galilean marriage.  I will explain the differences below.  The difference is profound and …. well, you will see.



A Judean Marriage

Let’s first take a look at a Judean marriage.  I will try to walk through all of the steps that take place in chronological order.


First, the father of the bridegroom finds a potential bride for his son.

Next, the father, with the son, approach the family of the bride.

They knock on the door.  If the bride is open to marriage, she will open the door.

Revelation 3:20

‘Behold, I stand at the door and knock; if anyone hears My voice and opens the door, I will come in to him and will dine with him, and he with Me.


Immediately, the father and his son are served a cup of wine.  There are 4 cups total.

They sit down and have a meal and afterward they drink from the second cup of wine.

Then, the fathers start to discuss the terms of the ketubah.  This includes the bride price the son will pay.

Once agreed, they ready their cups for a third cup of wine.  The bride can still reject him at this point.  If she fills the cup of wine of the bridegroom-to-be, she is interested in going further.

They drink the third cup and both parties agree to the ketubah.  They will drink the fourth cup at the wedding feast.

Matthew 26:29

“But I say to you, I will not drink of this fruit of the vine from now on until that day when I drink it new with you in My Father’s kingdom.”


They are now betrothed!


The father and son leave.

The son goes home to build an extension off of his father’s house for the new couple to live in.

John 14:2 – 3

“In My Father’s house are many dwelling places; if it were not so, I would have told you; for I go to prepare a place for you. ”

“If I go and prepare a place for you, I will come again and receive you to Myself, that where I am, there you may be also. “


The bride-to-be starts to prepare herself for marriage to her bridegroom.


A Galilean Twist

Now, here is where there is a difference between a Judean marriage and a Galilean marriage.  So far, both marriage are identical to this point.

For a Judean marriage, the son leaves to build his new room attached to his father’s house.  He comes back 1 year later to claim his bride.

In a Galilean marriage, only the father decides when it is time for the son to go and get his bride.  The son doesn’t know when he will be married.  When the father determines the son is ready, then he allows the son to go get his bride.  It is a time and day unknown.  Sound familiar?

Zechariah 14:7

For it will be a unique day which is known to the LORD, neither day nor night, but it will come about that at evening time there will be light.


Matthew 24:36

“But of that day and hour no one knows, not even the angels of heaven, nor the Son, but the Father alone. “


When the word is given, the son gathers his entourage and heads to the bride’s house.  This is usually in the middle of the night.

She is to be watching and waiting for him as she prepares herself.

He comes with a fanfare of shouts.  She can hear him coming before he gets there.

He takes his bride to the wedding feast.

As they arrive, invited guests are filing in.  The guests are given white wedding garments to wear.

They sit down to have a meal.  Now, they drink the fourth and final cup of wine.

They consummate the marriage and they are now fully married.



There is almost no different between a Judean marriage and a Galilean marriage.  The one difference is profound.  In the following articles, we will see how this framework fits into the entire Bible.  Remember, these are shadows of things to come.


Now that we know the framework, let’s dive into the story of redemption for YHVH’s people.








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